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Music & Stories- “I created an event especially for me!”

So here I am writing about something I only dreamed would happen. It’s just that, this was no longer in my plans. I sing. Yes. I’ve been singing for as long as I can remember. As life went by, my singing evolved from just the church to audiences on a professional level. Always for someone else, never just for me. I had my run and it was great. I kinda forgot about the things I wanted to do musically. I moved on, and started pursuing life in a different direction. Then, just like that, because of one decision, some of the things that I always wanted began to happen. FAST!

In June I shared an idea I developed to do a house show with a good friend of mine. She loved the idea and immediately saw my vision. Not only did she see my vision, but she helped me get to work in planning to make this happen!  The original house show idea came from one of my favorite artists, Jason Mraz. I was watching him on you tube many years ago and he was encouraging people that love to sing and perform not to wait on something big. He advised to “just invite your friends over and sing!” I thought this was just such a creative idea! So I took the idea and created an event especially for me….

Grateful!

Music & Stories

As many of you already know, I have a deep rooted purpose to inspire others. There are many ways that I have done this and will continue to do this in the future. I wanted to create a show that would allow me to inspire others through words and music.  The focus was never just on the music, but it was about reaching people through music and my words.  So, this show had two main goals; to inspire people through my words and to introduce the Danish lifestyle of “Hygge” in order to encourage the most comfortable atmosphere I could.  The song selection was based on the message I wanted to give through each story.  Music is what brought us all together. It’s amazing how we can all speak the same language through music.

Hygge

What is Hygge?? (pronounced HUE-gah) Here is the best dictionary definition I could find….”A quailty of cosiness and comfortable conviviality that engenders a feeling of contentment or well-being.” It is a very hard concept to define. Hygge is about creating an atmospher and an experience. It’s about being with the people you love. A  safe feeling of home. A feeling that you can let your guard down and enjoy some guilty pleasures together. I have found this lifestyle to be simple but complicated at the same time. There is a lot of language that describes it but the idea of the atmosphere is simple. Family. Friends. Conversation. Candles. Coffee. Tea. Hot Cocoa. Blankets. Pillows. Fluffy Socks. PJ’s. Sweets. Comfort Foods.  All of these things and more help to create the desired hygge atmosphere.

Why Hygge?? I included this lifestyle as a part of my show because; I have adopted it in my own life and I look for different ways to incorporate it and  I wanted to create an atmosphere that would allow people to feel safe and comfortable. Hoping that they would be more open to receive the messages I had to give. So that’s it! That’s Hygge! If you are interested, there is a wonderful book that goes into great detail about this lifestyle called The Little Book Of Hygge by Meik Wiking. It has wonderful pictures! Check it out!

Culture

One of the things I enjoyed about this show is that there were so many different cultures and backgrounds that attended. I felt blessed to have people from as close as Japan to as far as the continent of Africa! There can be so many barrieres when it comes to culture, but music brings people together in a way that can’t be described. Check out the pictures and videos below. If you didn’t attend, hopefully these pictures and and video clips will give you an idea of the amazing atmosphere and a peek into the world of Music & Stories!

Thank you’sJiro-san (Guitar) Words can not express how deeply grateful I am to you! You were amazing and helped make this night possible.  Sono-san (Transltor) You rock! I know it was not an easy task but you did it!! Thanks for bridging the gap! Ukba-san– You saw my vision and pushed me to see alot more! You were there every step of the way. Thank you for letting me lean on you.  Rieko-san– I’m gonna have you run the fan club! (lol) You are my biggest cheerleader and you never miss an opportunity to tell others about little ole me! Thank you for helping me organize this and making sure the night was perfect. To my family and friends over the seas that couldn’t be here….I love you! 

 

 

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5 keys to living an EMPOWERED life!

Have you ever been going through something and it just feels strange. It feels like all roads point back to you in areas of your life that you didn’t even realized exsisted.  There are so many lessons in life that come in many different forms. Its our job to be true to who we are and what we are purposed to do in order to get the fullness out of every experience. When we are in tuned with our mind and with our spirit, we can focus and accomplish great things in our lives and the lives of others. You wanna know how to do this? Try starting with these five things…..

1.  NEVER LET OTHERS DETERMINE YOUR ACTIONS  

It’s easy to say that you are independent and you don’t follow the crowd. It’s convenient and cliche to “dance by the beat of your own drum.”  What’s a little more difficult is to forgive that person that wronged you. To treat someone with respect that has not respected you. To not hold a grudge. To always be honest. To love someone inspite of. To be there for that person in need, even when they don’t deserve it. To give instead of  loan. To make the call. To just be you! Sometimes the best version of ourself is never seen. This is because we spend too much time allowing others to determine how we will react to situations. Before you act on                   anything in your life, ask yourself one question; “What’s in my heart to do?” Erase all the thoughts, suggestions, and actions of others that fill your mind. Trust yourself, go with your gut and be you!

2.  BE CONSISTENT

There is nothing more empowering than consistance! In every area of your life this should be your #1 goal. You should also consider this in how you approach any type of relationships. You may be the only consistent person in someone’s life. Don’t let them down. Keep your composure.

3. RESPECT YOURSELF

When you can wholeheartedly repect yourself under all circumstances everyone and everything HAS to fall in line! When you respect yourself, it will reflect in every decision you make. Especially those concerning your well being. It’s all about respecting your path in life. What God wants for you and what you want for you. Stand firm on that, and center all of your actions around it.

4. HAVE CONFIDENCE THROUGH LOVE

Love and fear cannot exsist together. Having confidence cancels fear so you can love. Love is more than a romantic feeling or something you feel for family and friends. It transends through everything  you do. Confidence supports love. Confidence supports the real you that is often hidden. There is something special about a person that is not afraid to be confident. It shows that you are willing to take a risk on yourself. That you are willing to try and never give up. That you firmly stand behind everything you support and believe in. Who doesn’t want someone like that in their corner!

5. BE THOUGHTFUL

Have you ever received a kind remark from someone you weren’t expecting? Maybe a gift that showed up at your door that surprised you! Have you been encouraged by someone at just the right time? Being thoughtful is one of those things that is SO powerful but is often overlooked. It takes on a different form of being kind and extends to your character. It speaks volumes of who you are inside because there is an intentional effort that is made. When you take the time to reach out to that person, to lend a helping hand, to be there even when you’re not asked, to honor your word; you have then stepped outside of average. Be thoughtful today and everyday.

Be careful of one person in your life……YOU!

You need to get out of your own way.

Stop hiding behind the past and the fears, the memories and the tears.

Forgive yourself.

Embrace the future and what it has to hold, at the same time developing a path that’s out with the old.

Stop with the excuses.

You’re in today and out tomorrow, but you know you’re living on time that is borrowed.

Don’t be so selfish.

People are depending on you. Especially the ones you don’t know of. Yep, it’s true.

Be a good example.

You’re too old to play games and too young to stay the same.

Fight for what you believe in.

You have little to lose but so much to gain.

Stand for something.

Cause making a difference in this world is becoming.

Be the change you want to see.

When you look in the mirror, that’s who you’ll want to be.

The truth is that you have too much to live for. You will suck the life out of yourself if you’re not careful. Learn to love yourself for who you are just the way you are. Do the things that make you happy and surround yourself with people that assist in that happiness. You are everything this world needs! There are divine qualities in you that noone else possesses. Identify them. Make everything you do count.  Be your own cheerleader.  Trust God and trust yourself. You got this!

 

 

 

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10 Helpful habits for your morning routine

Believe it or not, what you do in the morning can determine your success throughout your day.  Establishing routines can be extremely beneficial in your life.   I’m a morning person. Always have been. I really enjoy getting up early enough to ease into my day. When I begin early, I can take the time I need to think through the tasks I need to complete and it also helps to ensure I am “on time” for my duties. Although I am an early riser, I tend to take my time and not get much accomplished some mornings. I found that through establishing a morning routine I am able to complete simple tasks and start meaningful processes that continue throughout my day. So what does that look like? Here are my 10 morning must haves.

 

  • WAKE UP & STRETCH it may seem obvious to wake up, but you should give this some thought. First of all I’m always thankful to see another day. I usually whisper a Thank you to God when I awake to show my gratitude. You should practice getting up after your alarm goes off the first time, so NO SNOOZING!!! For some people, it helps to place your alarm on the opposite side of the room so you have to get up to turn it off. However you do it, just remember that you really don’t get more rest when you hit the snooze button. It’s just a delay  that could sometimes throw off your entire day.  STRETCH!! Just simply stretch out your limbs. It doesn’t have to be anything formal. Just a conscious way to wake up your entire body after it’s been asleep. It just takes a moment, but it’s very important.Black woman waking up in bed
  • DEEP REFLECTION This has become my favorite part of my morning routine. I love journaling. Well, I love the idea of journaling. Truth be told, I sucked at being consistent with it. However, when I organized this morning routine I thought long and hard about if I should include journaling. I identified my weakness with journaling and created this format of deep reflection. After I wake up and stretch I sit at my desk or in my floor chair and just write. No format to it, no special length, no order. I use this as a time to empty out any thoughts from yesterday, record and reflect on dreams I had that night, and identify with my feelings and emotions at that moment. Anything goes! I can make a list of things I remembered through the night, I can note goals, whatever! I try to keep my writings short. Only spending about 5 to 10 mins. I want to be as authentic as possible, so for me that means not forcing words out, but simply letting my thoughts flow.
  • MEDITATE After I am fully awake and I have emptied out my thoughts on paper, I make a conscious effort to mentally just BE! I sit quiet and clear my thoughts. I know this is very hard for some people and it is for me to. Try to focus on something that is natural and pure. I like to imagine a sunrise or sunset. It helps me appreciate the fact that I am alive, well, and I love the idea of chasing the sun. Knowing that my dreams can take me as far as I let them and realizing that like chasing the sun, they are never ending. I do this for a short time, only about 5 min. You can choose what length best suits you.
  • PRAYER This is probably the most important part of my routine. Time set aside to speak and listen to God. There is not much to say about this. Just do it! Remember that praying is listening too. Reading scriptures during this time will help you hear from God. It my also help to have a list of things and people you want to pray for. Take as long as you need on this one. Praying will regulate your day.
  • HYDRATE I am probably one of few people who drink water throughout the night. I started doing this as a teenager and it is a habit that I kept. For most, your body has gone about 8 hours, give or take, without water. It’s important that you hydrate first thing in the morning. Warm lemon water or apple cider vinegar water is best. You wake your organs with the warm water and the lemon or apple cider vinegar have amazing benefits for your body. Although I hydrate through the night, I find it nice to drink that warm cup of water before eating breakfast. I like to switch between the lemon water and acv water to get all the benefits!coffee-flower-reading-magazine
  • MAKE YOUR BED I do this step while sipping on my water. It takes about 2 mins to complete! That 2 mins helps to bring order to your day. It helps you feel accomplished! The obvious is that it’s great to be tidy. There is nothing more welcoming than stepping into your bedroom with a nicely made bed! I love pulling back that blanket before hopping into bed for the night!
  • PRIORITIZE Take a few mins to make a quick list of things you need and want to get done that day. Then, put them in order of priority. This is an important tool to master if you want to be productive! I plan my weeks using the Passion Planner every Sunday. So I just look at my list to make any adjustments and as a reminder to what I need to focus on for the day. There is nothing better than having a plan for each day! I cannot stress this enough! Begin with the end in mind!
  • EAT BREAKFAST I don’t have to tell you how important it is to eat breakfast in the mornings. Some people do and some people don’t. I wake up STARVING in the mornings! Breakfast is a must for me. Even if it’s just something quick, grab something to kick start your metabolism!
  • AFFIRMATIONS Take a few moments to speak positive things into your life! You shouldn’t look to others to do something that you can do for yourself. You know you best! Remind yourself of how great you are, that you are loved, that you will be productive today, that you are unstoppable, that you can do anything you put your mind to, that you are beautiful (handsome), that you are enough. Whatever is in your heart at the moment. Encourage yourself. After I am dressed for the day, I stop by the mirror, look myself in the eye, and speak a few affirmations to myself. Eye of the tiger!!DSC_0007
  • START YOUR DAY You have now prepared yourself for a productive day! This whole routine , although reading it seems lengthy, should only take about 60 mins give or take. It’s really all up to you. I find it totally worth it to get up early and prepare myself for the day. If you are someone who always runs late, this is your savior!!Try it! I would love to hear how it works for you!TY
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The 5 strengths in sacrifice

What is sacrifice? Sacrifice is to give up something of value for the sake of other considerations. Some of you may be reading this and saying “yup I do this everyday” because you believe everything in your life is valuable. I want you to consider this. Can the things or people you value be replaced? Probably most of them. Can the meaning of that value and the timing behind that meaning be replaced? Probably not! I have learned that everyone places value on different things. We all see things from the perspectives in which we have been conditioned. I think that is what makes sacrifice so powerful. Most of us never even look at sacrifice as being powerful. I want to show you five ways that sacrifice can show strength, and through strength we have power!

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Strength in altruism

The unselfish concern for the welfare of others. There are times when it is necessary to show concern for the wellbeing of others beyond using your words. I mean, how deep is your concern really if you are not willing to do something about it? I believe it’s when we take that extra step that strength begins to form. Sometimes you give and assist others when you’re  actually the one in need. In my opinion, this is the best time to show altruism. Imagine the power you walk away with when you know you’ve  sacrificed your own needs for the needs of someone else.

Strength in passion

Passion is desire + energy. It’s the thing that drives you. The thing you can’t live without and don’t want to live without. The thing that has become a part of who you are. The thing you will do for free or without acknowledgement. Sacrifice is necessary when it comes to your passion. You sacrifice a lot for the things that mean something to you. When you sacrifice for your passion something magical happens. You become more passionate. The strength in this is undeniable. The collection of ideas, the endurance, the courage, and the personal fulfillment are all remarkable examples of strength gained through passion.

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Strength in success

How do you define success? My definition of success is achieving personal goals on a consistent basis and inspiring others to do the same. It is through this that true strength is built. The ability to never give up, the gratification of physical reward, the actions of pursuit, and the ability to humbly commit. There are many definitions for success, but one of the greatest rewards no matter the definition is the strength you receive through your journey.

Strength in happiness

What does it mean to be happy? There are so many forms of happiness. Most of us should know by now that happiness is found within. If we look to any one thing or person, we have already lost. Things or people can assist in your happiness but they cannot make you happy. When you finally grasp that concept you will find a strength that no one can understand. The strength to live life under your own terms. The strength in knowing that it’s you that make the decisions for your life. The strength in knowing that you cannot be controlled by what this earth has to offer but you can live for the things that are not seen. Sometimes we do have to sacrifice certain things that make us happy in order to achieve another level of happiness. This only increases our strength in sacrifice because we know in the end we win!

Strength in love

Love is a word I speak about often because it alone is powerful. When you consider sacrificial love what comes to mind? Your spouse? Your children? Your family? I think of all of those things. I believe that the sacrifice of love comes in many ways and for many different people. So often, we sacrifice ourselves, financially, emotionally, and physically for the people and the things we “love.” The sacrifice in love is always you, but through this sacrificial love you gain patience, wisdom, and understanding.

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Whatever path your journey in this life takes you on, I pray that you understand the strength in sacrificing. Not just for yourself, but for others. Somebody’s counting on you, and sometimes that somebody is you!

 Ty

I’m searching…..and I won’t stop!

My life has been interesting. It has taken many curves and turns. Some expected, some not expected at all. The best thing about my life is the unexpected. The things that take my breath away. The things that remind me daily of why I’m happy to be alive!

I am very grateful for my life the way it is right now. I am so close to living the life I’ve always dreamed of. So close, but I’m still searching……

I’m examining carefully every area of my life. Why am I here? What is my purpose? What steps should I take? What do I want? What can I live with? What can I live without? What’s truly important? All of these questions and more! I’m still searching……

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I’m acutely observant to the things going on around me. The things that are happening in my life and to my life. The lessons I’ve learned and the lessons I’m still learning. The people I meet. The places I go. You guessed it, I’m still searching…..

What I’m searching for is FREEDOM! Freedom to live life under my own terms! Freedom to come and go as I please. Freedom to “call the shots.” Freedom to explore all the possibilities. Complete financial Freedom. Freedom to love. Freedom to be loved. Freedom to trust. Freedom of fear. Freedom to live this one and only life I get just the way I want to.

While searching I use wisdom. I use patience. I grow from my experiences. I never give up. I remember to stay consistent. Those years of waiting, hoping, and praying that someone would let me ” out of the box” that others tried to keep me in are here! The time is now. The goal is today. The hope is the future. Are you searching?……….

How to value the people in your life

It takes 9 months to fully develop a human being. In less than 5 minutes that human being can be gone. Never to return again. I find it hard to deal with death in general. The concept is just simply beyond my understanding. What I do understand is that we must learn how to value and cherish the people we have in our lives while they are here. We take so much for granted, and often times it starts with the people we say we value.

SELF REFLECTION

So how do we value the people in our lives? Let’s start with self reflection. The way you look at life and the status of your self esteem will determine how you treat others. Are you happy with yourself or do you find yourself living in your past mistakes? Do you constantly punish your future because of your past failures? Do you embrace life as it is right now and live in the moment? Think about these questions and evaluate your thoughts. Maybe some of your views need to change. Just remember that your actions are a  direct reflection of you and your character. Sure, we make mistakes and we do things that are out of character at times. When thinking about valuing others, keep in mind that your actions are very important. Nothing speaks louder.

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RELATIONSHIP REFLECTION

Why do you value each person in your life? Everyone plays different roles in our lives and they actually help shape who we are. I believe it’s important to know why you value the people in your life because this will determine how you show them you value them. Recently I expressed to someone my unconditional love for them. I decided to take this a step further because I was curious as to why I actually felt this way. How often do you actually evaluate your feelings and the reasons behind them? Well, I decided to compile a list of the reasons why I love this person.  All I can say is wow, what an eye opening experience this was! Some of the things on my list I never really gave a lot of thought until I purposed myself to. The other thing I thought about was how cool it would be to know why people value me in their lives. We will talk about that soon. After writing this list I have now begun to compile a list for many people I value in my life. I encourage you to give this a try.

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SAY HOW YOU FEEL

One of the most important things I think we can do is to tell people how we feel about them. This is probably the most authentic and the most vulnerable way to express value for someone. Yet it has to be one of the most effective ways. This clears up any doubt and reassures the person that your value for them in constant. That it’s always there, and doesn’t change. It may have even grown. That list of reasons why you value the person may be a good way to start! Depending on how comfortable you feel, share your list. I’m sure there will be things that will surprise them and make them feel valued! It doesn’t have to be this deep though! Sometimes just a short text message or email saying Thank you for something and a short explanation of how you value that person is enough. You never know how much they may need to hear what you have to say at that very moment. I guess I should share my list! Ha!

SHOW IT!

There is nothing better than actually showing someone how you value them! So, show up, be present, make that phone call, send flowers, send unexpected gifts, speak highly of them when they are not around, make the sacrifice, tell others about them, share in their happiness, support them, love them, invite them, be on time, give your advice, give the money, but most importantly be there when they need you to be there! One thing people remember is who was there for them in their time of need. If you value them, be someone they can also value!

 

20 truths most people won’t admit

I want you to read these 20 truths with an open heart and mind. Let them speak to you and apply them to your life. Some will agree, some will disagree. I challenge you to look beyond your prior knowledge and explore the heights of the new……

 

  1. You don’t have problems if you have solutions. Just situations.
  2. Change is inevitable.
  3. Love has everything to do with it.
  4. If you don’t want trouble, don’t go looking for it.
  5. chanceNothing happens by chance.
  6. Professionalism cannot be taught, it’s a state of mind.
  7. Knowledge is not power. The application of knowledge is power.
  8. Be the person you want to see in others.
  9. Someone is always watching.
  10. There is power in one.
  11. “Trying”gets you no where, “doing”makes you great!
  12. There is power in the tongue. Say what you mean, and mean what you say.
  13. Success is achieved through the mind first.
  14. There is nothing behind emotions but wasted time.
  15. Your perception is just that, “your perception!”
  16. Patience is the highest order of discipline.
  17. Make new friends but keep the old.
  18. Always lead with your heart.
  19. Seek to understand and not to be understood.
  20. Peace should be pursued.

And the list goes on……..what would you add??

THE POWER OF ONE!

There is so much going on in the world right now. Let’s be frank, it always is!!! Things we hear about, things we don’t hear about. Things we agree with, things we don’t agree with. Things we like, things we hate, things that are amazing and things that make or hearts break. We will always be “dealing” with something and “fighting for” something. So what is it that you are “fighting for?” What are you “dealing” with on a daily bases? What is heavy on your heart? What issues or situations have your attention today? I dare you to take a moment and write down 5 things RIGHT NOW!

So many of us do a lot of talking and debating. We do a lot of “sharing” and “liking.” We post and repost and then we judge and point fingers. WE create a world that is not about solutions but encompasses problems. WE do not demand results from ourselves. WE do not create the change that we want to see. You know why?? We’re inconsistent, we’re not loyal, we don’t have compassion, we don’t take responsibility, and we don’t believe! What don’t we believe…..in the POWER OF ONE!

There is power in one. That’s right, just YOU! You can make the difference of a thousand people. How?

#1. You never know who’s watching!

Many of you know that I do kindness missions as often as I can.  Sometimes they are big and sometimes they are small. Some planned, and unplanned. What I love about doing this, is that I believe it’s not the receiver of these acts that benefit the most. It’s the observers! Those that are watching that you don’t even realize are watching.  Many times, they are the ones that are touched the most and will go out and mimic what they saw. Now just think about how many people you can inspire to spread kindness or whatever you are doing just by capturing the attention of those watching.

#2. You never know how much someone needs what you have to give!

Have you ever received an unexpected gift and it touched you so much that you decided to give in the same way you received? I was sick recently and one night when I was on my way to bed there was a knock at my door! I was certainly not expecting anyone but to my surprise when I went to the door the administrator at my school and his wife were bringing me food they prepared for me! I was so very grateful and it meant so much to me. It was so helpful because I didn’t feel like cooking! Most importantly, it made me realize that next time I know someone that is sick, even if it’s just a small cold, I want to come to their rescue with food especially when they are not expecting it! What about the words you have to give? Do you know how many people are inspired daily by the things people say? What you say could change someone’s life. It could help them make a decision that will impact many people around them.

#3. You might not realize your influence!

You might be the next Martin Luther King Jr. and not even realize it! You could have the power to influence a few people around you to get up and make a change! You could be the one to organize that rally, or peace project. No matter how big or small, if your influence is positive, it will have a positive effect on your community. It has to start somewhere! These are the situations that cause  ripple effects that eventually change the world, literally.

 

Now, look at that list you made. Don’t let these issues continue without you taking responsibility for the part you play in it. Yes, you do play a part. The good news is, you get to choose if it’s positive or negative. Don’t wait on others to figure out how to make a change. Let it start with you and your communities. Let the small things turn into big things. It is quite often said that the world needs love. The irony is; it’s true!  Believe in the power within you!

Ty

You may be SPENDING time, WASTING time!

One of the most valuable things you have to give is your time! Therefore, it is also the most valuable thing you have to lose. You just simply don’t get it back once it’s gone! It’s important to truly internalize this concept because if you don’t, it could make or break you. Eventually, you find yourself in an endless circle constantly blaming others for your bad decisions. The sad thing is, often times you don’t realize it until it’s too late! You’ve lost the most important thing to you. You’ve forfeited your dreams and goals. You’ve given up on yourself. You’ve allowed people to shape who you’ve become!

The good news is, it’s never too late to change your thinking! It’s always appropriate to evaluate yourself and improve your character! The time to start is always NOW!

Take a look at these 5 ways people waste valuable time. Ask yourself if you are guilty of any of these? I can almost guarantee the answer will be YES!!

1.) Over thinking

Some of us have an imagination that is OUT OF THIS WORLD! Literally!  We over think everything! Let me tell you something, it’s not always about YOU! I think the biggest lie we tell ourselves is, that it IS about us! Consider removing yourself from the situation. Then, spend some time thinking about it from that aspect. Look solely at the other party involved and evaluate all possible options. I’m sure you’ll receive a different point of view that will change our thinking. The next step is the hardest, LET IT GO! Believe you can do it!

2.) Insecurities

We all have them. It’s a sad reality. There is something that is holding you back from doing that “thing” that is in your heart to do. You want to but you can’t. Only if you didn’t look like this, only if you didn’t feel like this, maybe if you didn’t sound like this, possibly if you had more education, certainly if you were rich, for sure if you were a different race, and the list goes on and on! Give your insecurities a goodbye party! Write them down and then burn them. Speak positive affirmations to yourself daily regarding your insecurities. Realize that they are only alive because you feed them. Stop feeding yourself negatively! Give yourself life!

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3.) Expectations

There are two kinds of expectations that we allow to destroy us. Expectations that others put on us, and expectations of ourselves.  We are completely controlled through expectations. We do things we don’t want to do, we actually take on other people’s problems. Expectations become a weight and they cause us to act out of obligation and waste time doing things we don’t really want to do. Release yourself of all expectations. Don’t be afraid to say “No” and stand by it! Tell people what your intentions are because they dispel their expectations of you! Don’t be so hard on yourself. Take things one day at a time. Be free to allow things to happen organically in your life!

4.)Procrastination

This one right here is something else! This is where excuses live! This is where fear lives! This is where doubt lives. So many things live in procrastination. It’s a trick because you don’t even see it in that way. You don’t realize that you are being “played!” You think you’re busy and you just haven’t found the time. When really, it’s designed to keep you in a holding pattern until you finally just give up! Don’t let procrastination win in your life. Whatever it is, find a way to do it now! If it’s really not possible, look at what you can do in the meantime to positively feed whatever your goal is. Never let it lay dormant, not even for a moment. There is always another way to do something. Sometimes, you just have to find it. Don’t put off until tomorrow what you can do today. You’ll be glad you didn’t!

5.)Fear

I talk about fear all the time! It’s just that, it’s sooooo huge! I am proud to say that I am kicking mine down one at a time! I am grateful to have a great support system of people around me to pick me up when I’m kicking and screaming because I am too afraid to face them. They help talk some sense into me and I finally realize that I can’t allow fear to continue to control my life. I have been so productive recently because I have begun to tackle this issue head on! Fear will literally make you physically sick! That, my friend is disgusting! The thing that has helped me the most is prayer and realizing that I have nothing to lose, but so much to gain! Often times, we don’t think about the positive outcomes behind our fears because the negative is just so prevalent! That’s the trick, to make you think it’s so bad, when it could actually be so good! Start with just one today. Find that fear that is weighing you down the most and start praying about it. Start understanding that although this fear could have been developed with the help of someone else, you are the one that allows it to exist. Live your life in a way that you can appreciate the tough times and learn from them. Not fear them!

Ty